First and foremost let me say that if someone would have told me I was going to cut my hair a year ago, I would have laughed in their face, but I did just that on New Years Eve and I wanted to share how I came to the conclusion to cut my hair and how God used this as practice to put my faith in Him. Hope you enjoy!
The Decision Making Process
August or September of last year I started searching on the Internet to upgrade my hairstyle. I remember being so sold on jumping on the “Brazilian” bandwagon so I spent HOURS reading and watching…watching and reading reviews over and over trying to make a final decision. Such a tedious process! One thing I remembered was that the whole process gave me NO peace! This was shocking to me since I was so convinced that was what I wanted. I was letting something like hair stress me out, give me a headache, and make me really frustrated. After a few days of this I just quit and said “you know what…I JUST WANT TO CUT MY HAIR!!” What was even more shocking is how quickly all that frustration left me and was replaced with this calmness I couldn’t explain. Now, I must admit that I’ve said this before but wasn’t really serious about it, but the peace I felt this time was different and I believe that the Holy Spirit speaks through our peace. So, my topic of research switched to short styles instead. It was actually fun and I spent time looking up the best cuts for my face shape, maintenance, products etc. Now one important point I want to make is that I prayed through this process from start to finish. I prayed to be led to the right cut, to help me find the right stylist, to open and close doors as He saw fit, to confirm whether this decision was a knee jerk reaction to frustration or a real desire, I even prayed that I would like it and not be unhappy with it…all that. I wanted to be led by Him even in something as small as my hair, something I’d never done before. I also talked to my family and best friend about it which was helpful. Eventually, I settled on a style and made a hair appointment for the weekend after my birthday. However, this appointment didn’t work out. Uh oh. I started freaking out saying things like, “what if this is a sign I shouldn’t cut my hair?! What if I hate it and I just dodged a bullet?” Fear took over for a while and I almost backed out of the whole thing. But thanks to my big sister she talked some sense into me and reminded me that fear doesn’t come from God and said I should go through with it. So after my first appointment was a bust, I was just scrolling aimlessly through Instagram and saw a gorgeous cut that led me to a page full of short styles! This definitely wasn’t a coincidence and I ended up finding a better style and that’s that! I made an appointment New Years Eve and now I LOVE my new cut!
So what does this have to do with my faith?
I was driving in my car today and some revelations came to mind that I didn’t realize until now. I believe God used this whole ordeal to bring to life some things about His character that I’ve read in the Bible and I wanted to share them with you!
1. God cares about even the little things! I believe God loves to see us depend on Him in every aspect of our lives. I admit that I have a long way to go in this area but I’ve been practicing. My hair for example. Now, some people would probably think it’s crazy to pray to God about some hair. I get it. I used to be one of those people, but God wants us to acknowledge Him in all our ways Proverbs 3:5-6 this means we are to turn over every area of our lives to Him. Every! What I like about this verse is that it doesn’t say to acknowledge Him in the big things, or acknowledge Him when we can’t handle things or after we tried and failed and want God to take over…acknowledge Him in all our ways. We have to learn to stop sorting our lives between the things we want to handle and the things we want God to handle. He wants it all because He is Our Father and He wants to take care of us. Remember that God took time to create the huge sun and sky as well as the grass, the birds of the air, the ants and even those little gnats down in South GA that seem to serve NO purpose in life. He cares. He saw that I sought His help in this and He directed my path and answered my prayers like He promised. I must say that this experience added to my faith in the all powerful God in a way I wasn’t expecting and I’m grateful.
2. God wants us to trust in His timing and not ours.
Like I said, I prayed for God’s help in this thing, but then I proceeded to make an appointment based on what made sense to me and my perfect timing. The weekend after my birthday, which was my original date, was right after finals and at the beginning of a month long Christmas break. I figured this would give me time to get used to my hair and learn how to take care of it. This was also time for me to do something about it if I didn’t like it…well things didn’t go my way. I ended up having two less weeks to get used to my hair and things worked out fine, although I was scared at first. See, once I prayed for God to take care of this, I should have had faith that He would. That way, it wouldn’t have mattered whether I made the cut a month or a day before school started back. This is where trusting in the Lord with all my heart comes into play, but the best thing about making mistakes is that we learn from them!
3. God will change our desires to line up with His will when He sees that we are seeking Him.
For many years, I put so much of my confidence in hair! I needed it! It had to be a certain length or I didn’t feel pretty, but the more I walk with the Lord, I see more clearly how vital it is to put our hopes in something that’s eternal and not temporary. Psalms 37:4 says “take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” I believe that as we grow in taking delight in the Lord, we begin to desire the things He desires, things we probably never wanted before that align more with His will. My “something” was hair and some of other things and yours may be something different. But I can guarantee that we will come up short if we continue to do this. Hair can fall out. Someone may not have the kids they put so much of their hope in and if they do the kids will grow up and eventually leave the nest. That boyfriend or girlfriend may not be as faithful as we hoped. That job may lay us off or money could be spent or stolen, but God is forever and always.
To wrap things up, God can use anything to bring Him glory and I want to encourage us to take God out of that box and let Him roam freely throughout our lives. I’ve got some work to do on this too but I want to invite you to join me on this quest to stop putting God in compartments while we handle the parts of our lives we are afraid to let go of. Hey, what can you lose?! Know that God has our best interest at heart and loves us so deeply (Jeremiah 29:11 ). If it is difficult for us to trust in the Lord like this, then this could be because we don’t know Him well enough. How many of us trust people we don’t know? So a cure to this is getting into God’s Word so He can reveal His character to us. God knows us very well. The question is this: do we know Him?
God is so much greater than the box we put Him in,
HAPPY NEW YEAR!